The perspective of one's life...

It’s your scent and the touch that defines me,

the pleasure in solitude we find together.

Ain't what we have thought of, 

it's not what we have gone through

simply the way we find ourself, loving each other

I won't say, i have seen the future, 

Or, i have been there,

I won't say, I am an Oracle, 

wont say I am the one...

but I would say, 

Every kiss, is like the last kiss of life.

Every moment is the flash of lifetime

Drifting away in the magical night of your eyes, 

Holding hand together is indefeasible

The small actions of your mighty expression

Nothing much to say, nothing is there to pretend

Listening your heartbeat all through the night

Falling asleep, my head on your chest

Your scent and your touch mesmerises my skin

It’s your scent and touch that defines me...

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A Decade of Solitude

Time flew so fast that it’s going to be a decade now.

A Decade of responsibility,
A Decade of making my own decisions,
A decade of Insecurity,
A decade where I have lost many things, and gained some.

It’s like ages ago when I used to feel comfortable, happy and full of joy. Life changed in such a way, that I have never expected to be, until I was 18.

A whole different world was waiting, I didn’t see that coming. I remember the evening when I was informed, and it was like everything which I had, I lost.

I lost you, We lost you…

Load of advises, various rituals, and many people giving assurances, all fake.

It’s been years and I forgot what it feels like calling Dad/Papa.
How it’s like to feel secure?
How it feels when you get scolding on wrong decisions?
and appreciated when you do something good.
How it feels to ask/demand without thinking?
How it feels like mom taking my side against you?
What festival means, what is the joy of celebration? How togetherness feels.

Forgot what fear is?
Fear of not doing something,
fear of doing right thing,
fear of get beaten up on mistakes.

And now, I only have this blurry image of all those feelings, and It’s just me now, trying to do the right thing.

It’s been decade when someone had told me “do what you want, I am here with you”. I forgot how it feels when someone says: “Don’t worry I am here”.

I remember when I was little, I just followed the decisions that you took for me. Good, Bad, Sad whatever, but I didn’t have to think, I didn’t have to put my brains in it. I just had to follow.

It’s been a decade I am making my own decisions. Good or bad, Right or wrong, no one questioned. And I grew up very soon, when normally teenager think about spending money, party with their friends, buy a new bike, I started thinking about earning, saving and not to become a liability on her, trying to support her anyway I could, and I did my best. Still, I think I made mistakes, I could have done it better, but I learned from all the mistakes I made.

I approximately experienced everything in these 10 years, how people change, how they act as they are your true guardians, and then how they just don’t give a damn about you. How someone walk into your life and act as you are an integral part of their lives, and then walk-out as you were nothing. Relatives, Friends and people who say ‘You are like family to them’, keep on coming and crossing by, like passengers, they don’t stay, they don’t care. And that’s the truth of life.

There were times, when I was neglected, rejected, demotivated, unappreciated, with these same people who gave me all those crap of assurances, advised me ‘what to do and what not to do’.

But still I respect all of them. I learned this from you, watching you giving respect to everyone, doesn’t matter who they are or what they had done. The respect you gave to her, the respect you had for our likes and dislikes and our decisions, anyone else can’t give, and so there is no point.

You were and are my ideal. I always wanted to be like you, the way you walked, the way you talked, the way you dressed up, you were the most handsome person I had ever known or seen.

My existence is because of you and you are my father.  I forgot what this word means but yes I still have those images of yours and sense that you are still somewhere watching and guiding me, giving me strength to take big decisions and supporting me when I go wrong. And this makes me strong and I forgot what feeling week is…

Why Twitter is a hit!?

Why Twitter??

Let me ask you first, Why are you on twitter?

To get the updates of the person whom you like?

To check whom your bf/gf is talking to or following?

To get the latest News?

To know what is new in the world?

To fill a vent of your life by being omnipresent?

Or just like that?

There can be infinite reasons, and may be all of them can be true, or may be you are just faking it.

Anyway coming to the point, why I think Twitter is not too good but its a good thing,

Someone says..... "Twitter is a giant time suck!"

"Seriously, let’s say you have 4,267 followers. Do you really think that anyone is reading your tweets? Do you read the tweets from your 4,267 followers? Other than a spamy DM (that’s Direct Message for you newbies), have any of your followers ever contacted you, or bought something from you? "

Point 1-

If you have 4267 followers, you are a Hero, and you shouldn't talk like this,

Dell has more than 20 profiles on Twitter, with more than 15,00,000 at Max and 398 at Minimum followers, whom they keep track on sec basis, they reply and understand queries of each and every user and are helping them.

I am not going to tell you all what exactly Dell and Consumers are getting,because you are intelligent enough to understand. If not then Leave the topic... :)

Point 2

If you have 4267 followers, how the hell in this world YOU will be able to get their tweets, they are your followers, you are not following them!

Companies do contact the customer, friends do contact their friends, I do contact some interesting people and my "ex" that is the whole point, why the hell will someone will contact some stupid uninteresting person, and if you are telling me even after having "4267" followers, none of them contact you, hoh man! what are you??

Some Says.....

"What is the purpose? Why would you tweet a message to 4,267 followers knowing that if you were truly blessed that possibly 2 people might actually see your message, stop what they’re doing and give thanks that YOU just finished a bagel at Starbucks?

What am I missing here? How could such a time-wasting application gain such popularity? If no one’s reading, but everyone’s tweeting, what is the purpose? Who gains what? Tweeting is like cooking a chicken and tossing it out the window. YOU feel good about your accomplishment, but no one knows you did it and you just wasted time for nothing. "

I agree with this para, but not truly, I see people tweeting every single second, I don't see that happening in this environment, it sometimes pisses me off too, but I see some sensible tweeters tweeting some sensible stuff at a particular time interval.

Free Suggestion (Don't overdo it)

Although again coming to the point, Twitter is a success because Facebook doesn't have an unlike button and followers are not your friend,

e.g.

you clear out your frustration in here, because you can't do it on Facebook or on anybody's face because their are friends and family.

Twitter has Huge potential, I don't think for utilizing the potential their should be A Million followers, it's about using the source at it's full, in India actually there is no case study which can show you the true potential of twitter,

I feel that the area is still to define... 99% user are using twitter for a bull-shit reason, believe it or not, but just check their tweets, what relevancy and add-ons you find in their tweet in respect to their life, it's just too much noise with nothing good in it.

But I can see the future, with relevant followers who are interested in learning & understanding and following relevant company or people...

Right now what it is, it's a TREND, very soon it is going to become a need, and once it will take that Shape you can clearly feel the difference.

Daring or Excitement or Adventure or Personality

Do you drink and drive, gamble, or sleep with strangers? It's not just a behavior. It's a personality.




She lives for excitement. She dies of boredom when life becomes too predictable. She has a wide circle of friends but no tolerance for dullards. She likes meeting exciting new people, even if she knows that they are unreliable. She smokes and drinks hard—and parties heavily on weekends with Ecstasy, or any new drug that appears on the scene. She thinks nothing of going to bed with someone she just met, without obtaining character references or condoms. She has a Porsche that she drives...fast. She also likes to gamble at the casino—often losing more than she can afford. She's behavior encompasses many kinds of risk. In the long term, the most dangerous of her activities are smoking and drinking. There are nearly 80 times as many deaths per year from tobacco and alcohol as from cocaine and heroin. But She thinks only of today's gratifications, not their associated dangers.

"She" is a fictional character, but she represents a kind of general risk-taker, one whose behavior encompasses many different activities. Such broad-spectrum risk-takers not only exist, I have discovered, but have a distinctive personality makeup that is the product of both genes and experience. It is important to identify such people because they create significant public health problems, for others as well as themselves. But for all the danger they put themselves in, they personify—perhaps magnify is more precise—a human trait that is very much responsible for our survival as a species.

Over these weeks, I have studied about personality traits, I have seen various personalities attracted towards doing things way out of their culture & tradition.
One of my friend wrote:
"I do bad things sometimes. I seem to have an attraction to them. I try to make up for it though, that's about all one can do." and few of my best buddies accepted the fact.
"Risk taking or doing wrong things is not the main point of sensation-seeking behavior; it is merely the price such people pay for certain kinds of activities that satisfy their need for novelty, change and excitement. In fact, many of the things that high sensation-seekers do are not at all risky. They enjoy high-intensity rock music, view Sex and horror films, travel to exotic places, and party without drugs" Sensation-seeking can also extend to the physical, involving unusual or extreme sports such as skydiving, hang gliding, scuba diving, auto racing, rock climbing and whitewater kayaking. An interest in participating in such sports describes one subcategory of sensation-seeking: thrill- and adventure-seeking.
- Writes a psychologist.
Some psychologists have suggested that risk-taking is linked to Neuroticism, a personality trait. They see it as an expression of neurotic conflict, a form of acting out or counter-phobic behavior. Our previous research on physical risk-taking refutes such an explanation; it suggests that risk-takers do not expressly exhibit traits of neuroticism or anxiety.
So, people who are like "SHE" are of that personality, its not habit.

High-risk behaviors like reckless driving, an antisocial activity if ever there was one, are a vehicle for expressing aggressiveness and hostility. Or perhaps risk-taking might be just an expression of a generalized need for activity itself, as is the case with hyperactive individuals, who provide their own stimulation through activity to overcome boredom.

Yet many risky activities, such as drinking and drug use, are done in a social setting. So it is possible that these activities, particularly in a college population, may be related to sociability. I look at college students, when I was in college there was a friend of mine and few of my friends were engaged in some or all kinds of risky activities like: smoking, drinking, drugs, sexual behavior, reckless driving.

Now I ask a question: Is there indeed such a thing as a generalized risk-taking tendency? and if so, what type of personality traits are associated with this tendency?
Also,
There is a question I asked with a psychologist friend was: whether the six arenas of risk are interrelated, pointing to a concept of generalized risk-taking.

As it turned out, smoking, drinking, sex and drugs work in tandem with each other. Among both males and females, students who did one tended to do the others.

you can answer on your own, with your experience.

As a single guy, I use to go to the parties, I don't drink, I don't smoke, hence I know the difference between being in senses and senseless deeds. I like dancing with girls, but I definitely know what is the limit. Drunk girls can easily be loosed and ultimately they end up sleeping with other guy. I have experienced two different statements with a same girl, while drinking and smoking and the next morning.

Drinking, Smoking, One night stands, Gambling etc. are not part of adventure, it is something stupid that will make you regret once in a while in your lifetime. If doing this for fun or you love to do it, then just do it, relating this to adventure is wrong.

As far as risk taking and adventure is concerned,

Start a business,
Horse ride,
adventure Sports,
Go to Everest, north and South pole,
Leave your parent's home to build your own,
make your dream your life,
and all these things needs your 100% sense,
or check out Tushky http://www.facebook.com/iamTushky

so what about alcohol?

Lustful Longing

Tell me what I'd have to change. Who would I have to be

To slip into your arms; for you to make sweet love to me.

Must I climb the highest cliff; swim along the ocean floor

Crawl over broken glass - would you demand that I do more?

Could you take me as I am, with my issues and my flaws

Pull me to your chest without a hesitation or a pause?

Slide your hungry tongue between my parted lips.

Run your anxious fingers along my quivering hips.

Wrap me in your passion, expose your every need.

Press your steamy lips to mine, every secret freed.

Sprinkle your tears across my cheek, confess every desire

Moan my name, call me yours, and set my soul on fire.

Need me more with every breath that slips into your chest,

Please me nightly, miss me daily, never compare me with the rest.

Grip my wrists; look in my eyes, and say the words I long to hear

Kiss me roughly, and weep my name, forever hold me dear.

Do I ask for wishes that could never quite come true?

Is my sin, my greatest fault, that I can't stop loving you?

~Jennifer

Invisible Fences

I am reading a book of Robin Sharma, what an amazing writer, but I will like to call him phenomenal observer. This post is dedicated to the thoughts which he was able to implant in

my cerebellum.

why we avoid change? why we don't innovate? why we don't express the genius residing within us? why we choose to simple life and avoid challenges? why we choose to leave the discussion or conflicts? - The reason "Invisible Fences".

Have you ever seen a military officer training his dog? if not then let me explain for you..

It spoke on of an invisible fence. It's a system that sets an invisible boundary that the dog can't get past. The dog eventually become conditioned so that even when the fence is gone, it will not run beyond it. The dog sets up an imaginary limits that determine its reality.
We are like that too. As we grow up, we adopt negative beliefs and false assumptions and sabotaging fears from the world around us. These become our invisible fences. We believe that they are real. When we bump up against them at work(and in life), we retreat. We believe the boundary is true. So we shrink from all we are meant to be/do/have. The illusion seems so real. But its not.

Watch a 2 year old baby, is he afraid of doing anything, or does he think that what will be the consequence of the actions he is taking,

NO.. and this is the big reason, why a baby starts Crawling then walking and finally running...

They don't set their limits, and if they will, trust me they will never grow.

Don't Set your limits - Setting limits and analyzing too much results a very narrow path which leads to grow but "rationally".

Extraordinary people are ordinary people with extra imagination. They are failed thousand of times but still they continue doing it, that is what we call courage.

I remember a quote from Thomas Edition when he was asked by a journalist:

"Sir, How do you feel when you failed 10,000 times before this greatest invention."

He smiled and replied "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.".

No great life was ever built on a foundation of excuses. My elder brother, I adore him, and he is one of my ideals, I remember when I was in 10th going to give my exam, He asked me something and I gave some excuse for not doing that.... He replied "We have forty million reasons(excuses) for not doing, but only one reason for completing the task, and that is I Had to".

Successful people don't make excuses. They create results. And no great life was ever built on foundation of excuses. Most of them are self created delusions, designed to help you avoid doing the things you are afraid to do. Yes, beneath every excuse lives a fear.

A fear of changing, unknown, failure, success.

"No matter what life sends us, we are the responsible for the way we respond"

- Rohit Sharma

We truly are. We can own our reaction. We can choose what we do with the situation. We can be bitter, or show up better. Tons of choices - at all times. Starting with our words, choosing them well, positive attitude & open mind...

Life is Beautiful