Friday, August 13, 2010

Fornication Sin??


"Pre-marital sex or Fornication" is a big NO-NO in our culture for various reasons.

While prohibiting sex until one is married has its own merits, one must also consider the fact that in recent times the age in which the men and women are tying the nuptial knots has been slowly on the rise. Early 30s is a common age until which men and women remain un-married due to prevalent socio-economic situation.

In light of this, I wonder if Indian values have undergone any changes or do Indians still consider pre-marital sex a sin. Please share your thoughts and views."

Holland was one of the first nations where sex became nothing more than a cup of coffee. In the 1960's and after it the sexual revolution in the Netherlands was extreme. there was partner changes, group-sex, tools-sex, and many more materialized forms of sexual things. Now we Indians too are one or two generation further and look at the results. Many old people lives in extreme loneness. Family ties are practically loosing away here in India. The whole society does not exist in metro's here in fact. Nation is being presented as a fabric, where only material profit is important.

Children here are having hard youth. I feel so sad to see that young girls cannot be happy, their whole youth is gone. For a little girl the youth must be pure and without problems of adults. If young girls are not happy then there is something really wrong with the society.
In Hindu culture young girls have the powers of Durga Maata and in fact they are treated as holy members of the society.

The facts of life in metro free sex society: Many girls have no morality anymore. They see themselves as lower evolved creatures and they hate their own body later. Mentally they are depressed and the result is that they do not enjoy relations with men.

There is always a man who is many times better and the boys knows that this is the reality. Love is gone. Tenderness is gone. Relations are built upon sexual needs, without the feeling of being connected with the other soul.

Love is completely materialized.

My vision:

I think that sexuality is very important for every human being. and that's why it is better to marry at young age, to develop your own feelings toward and to fulfill your duty to reproduce, if not that indulge with someone whom you really Love and see your future. Every human being needs intimate relations not only to feel that he/she is living and enjoying life, also because of that emotional feeling that there is someone who is always there for him/her, in all of there bad and good times.

But men have other definitions of intimacy than women. Maybe it is better to learn more things about the female vision on intimacy and love.

Sex and pornography are typically male things in society, because men have more needs and they must prove that they are good and potent or full with brutal male energy. Maybe it is better to make it easier to find a public woman and to let young boys develop their sexual personalities, But it is even better to let young boys marry early ages and to learn how to love somebody and to take care of the weaker gender.

For many males sex is the only goal. Just like a sickness that cannot be cured. Many girls do not want a friend anymore and they decide to live alone forever, without children. Empty lives, filled with the richness of many thousands.

Having mountains of money yet being extremely poor. All over the world even in India now.

Many women especially my one good friend of Italy (divorced) told me the following things:

The men are just like animals, because sex and dirty pornography (doing things) are the only goals in a intimate relation with a female.

The respect and tenderness are gone in free sex societies. Only doing (mating activity) counts.

The satisfaction of women is very low and relations are terminated without being started.

Why do we condemn tenderness and deep intimacy (immaterial) between a man and a woman as being old-fashioned and backward? Old traditions are based upon wisdom that is developed during many centuries. the technology of the human spirit is lost nowadays and developing it again will take many centuries. We are back at the stone age, where females were preys and males were the hunters.

The bottom line is when two young people are together alone and hormones are bubbling, it is very difficult to stay in control. However, all the misconceptions, that pre-marital sex makes you aware of your sexuality or whether there is a chemistry between the couples are mere justifications. Enjoyment of Sex is directly connected to upbringing, psychology and last but not the least love.

Most Indian women in the 50s were brought up with guilt and fear when it came to sex education thus they didn't quite understand the concept and sex was not enjoyable with them. Likewise most impotent men have psychological reasons. Sex is enjoyable with couples when they are truly in love they learn to give pleasure to their partner over a period. Even married couples and in love cannot enjoy sex to its fullest, if they are under pressure of any kind may be a financial problem or issues between them which are not resolved.

PS :- Fornication is not bad if there is True Love & Future....




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